I stumbled upon a blog today that discussed the art of seducing women. It was written by a man, which I found slightly humorous. I wonder what research he did on the subject, and if he asked any women for input.
I started to think hard about the scenario that would most impress me.
If a stranger crossed my path during a normal day and wanted to get a date, my dreamy fantasy would be this…
He says, “Excuse me. I couldn’t help but notice you in this crowd. I would love to take you to dinner. Here’s my card. I hope you’ll call and say yes.”
Then he vanishes into the sea of faces, and I am left holding a card, feeling surprised and taken off-guard, thinking that takes guts.
That’s a real man.
With these few words, he has impressed me in the following ways:
- He complimented me.
- He communicated that he thinks I’m special in a crowd.
- He’s willing to spend money for a dinner to get to know me.
- He gave me an easy way out of a potentially embarrassing moment by not putting me on the spot for an answer.
- He provided an open opportunity for future conversation.
So now, I get to think about that all day – the surprise of it… the romance of it…Unless he smelled bad, or looked like Charles Manson, I’d be inclined to say yes.
She loves compliments (well, I do, anyway). What she probably doesn’t like is flattery, or too much gushing. Compliment her sincerely or don’t say anything at all. She can spot a fake.
Make Her Feel Special
A woman wants to feel like you have never met another woman like her before in your whole life, and you are certain you never will again. Again, sincerity is key, so please find some good quality in her to focus on that makes her truly stand out in the crowd.
Spend Money on Her (a.k.a. Don’t be a Cheapskate)
You don’t have to be a millionaire to take a woman to dinner, but do the best you can. Don’t just ask her out for a drink; that says, “I’m not really sure if you’re worth my time or money.” Show her you’re willing to make an investment in getting to know her. Don’t try to fudge on this one and substitute lunch. Lunch isn’t serious, and it doesn’t count.
Don’t Put Her on the Spot
It can be very embarrassing for both the man and the woman if the man is very forward and the woman does not find him attractive. Give her a chance to mull it over and compose herself. She might be more likely to say “no” if she feels pressed.
Provide the Means for Future Conversation
Even if you have time to engage in small talk with her on the metro ride, it doesn’t guarantee that you’ll ever see her again. She may not feel comfortable giving a stranger her number on the spot, so giving her your card allows her to make a choice and opens the door for contact down the road.
It’s real simple, guys. Be a man. Take a risk.
Ask her to dinner.