Category: family

Indiana 2014 – It’s a Wrap

I can’t imagine going back there unless one of them is gravely ill or dead. I’m so done.  It’s not their fault, I guess.  It’s not mine, either.  The Universe threw us together into this thing called a family, which somehow takes on this “till death do us part” kind of promise, which is completely unfair when we don’t get to do the choosing. … Read More Indiana 2014 – It’s a Wrap

Indiana 2014 – Day 3 (Fathers and Feathers and Fish)

He did it again. It seemed like the middle of the night when I thought I heard a knock at the door.  I wanted to ignore it, but my son was sleeping on the sofa bed and I went to check it out. There he was – my son – receiving instructions in low tones from my father, who had decided to take him … Read More Indiana 2014 – Day 3 (Fathers and Feathers and Fish)

Indiana 2014 – Day 2 (Boats and Bears)

The second day of the trip began the way most of my days begin – with the donning of the running gear and a glance at the schedule while the kids lay sleeping.  I had contacted the local high school before we left to see if I could make use of their running track for my interval training.  The answer was yes, and that’s … Read More Indiana 2014 – Day 2 (Boats and Bears)

Indiana 2014 – Day 1 (Showers and Shit)

I stood in the bathtub in my mother’s outdated bathroom under a trickle of water that was supposed to be a shower and wondered if I would ever get clean.  I looked up at the mint green walls with the mauve seashell wallpaper border along the ceiling line and thought, Mom doesn’t even like the beach.  A jar of shells sits on the vanity, … Read More Indiana 2014 – Day 1 (Showers and Shit)

States of Mind

I love the soothing rhythm of my front-porch rocking chair.  My winged friends are wound up this evening, but the mocking birds are strangely silent.  Usually it’s all I hear – the incessant twitter of a dozen different calls from the show-offs of the neighborhood.  I wonder where they are. The new boxwoods that line the front of the porch are showing light green … Read More States of Mind

Evening News

I had a packed day, full of assorted craziness from start to finish. The big snow storm we were promised wimped out and left us nothing but annoyed.  Some minor accumulation and cold air was all she wrote. This morning I received some disturbing but not shocking news about my family in Indiana that reinforced my relief that I decided to move away so … Read More Evening News

Closing in on Christmas

It was a good day.  A little running, a little working, a little cleaning and prepping… a little eating and drinking and a LOT of chocolate.  Ugh. Sometimes it’s tough not to be closer to my family during the holidays.  But what am I really missing?  A crowded Christmas Eve service at church and ham sandwiches?  My family is pretty broken, not unlike a … Read More Closing in on Christmas

Evening Song

The moon is big and beautiful tonight.  I’m in my favorite summer spot, rocking on my front porch and sipping Columbia Crest Chardonnay.  And I’m happy.   My guests are gone, and nothing remains of the week’s stress but some trace evidence of a celebration and some extra dirty towels in my bathroom.  The neighborhood is relaxed, too, with strains of “Happy Birthday” floating … Read More Evening Song

Family Fun

I’m making a valiant effort to return to “normal” with a late-night post, even though my routine is still greatly upset and I can’t possibly put together any coherent writing about the last few days of my life.  I’m almost certain my thoughts will start to gel over the next week as I begin to unwind from this (let’s call it traumatic) experience. My … Read More Family Fun

Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree

Another good day in the Christmas countdown.  The kids and I headed over to the local tree farm down the street and selected a perfect Korean Fir for the family room amidst ridiculous silliness and merriment.  My kids are so cool.  Those are the kinds of Christmas moments you can’t possibly plan, although we have a pretty good track record with our Christmas tree … Read More Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree

The Doctor is… OUT

The problem with people who have no vices is that generally you can be sure they’re going to have some pretty annoying virtues. ~Elizabeth Taylor Every family has one.  That one relative who instigates trouble and then sits back to condescend and judge the reactions of those affected by it.  The one who thinks that 3 therapy sessions renders them psychologically whole and puts … Read More The Doctor is… OUT

Hot Mess

TGIF, because tomorrow is a sleep-in Saturday, a rare and coveted event for me.  I’m wiped out – emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually… and any other way there is to be tired.  This would be an excellent time for a Caribbean beach vacation if I weren’t so intent on getting back into my routines and my “groove.” The drama with my sister has come to … Read More Hot Mess